Tommy IS my son

When we speak of lost loved ones we often speak in a past tense, but I was reminded recently that it’s ok and more accurate to use present tense in most instances.  Tommy IS my son.  Tommy IS a brother.  Tommy IS a friend.  Tommy IS loved.    Speaking in past tense “indicates an action, event or condition has started and finished”.  Tommy does not finish being a son, friend, or brother because he is no longer alive.  Our love for Tommy will never be finished and will never end.  When I speak of Tommy I will speak of him in present tense.  His life should always be included.  When someone asks how many kids I have I will always respond: TWO.  I have a son in heaven and a daughter on earth.  Tommy IS my son and will NEVER be forgotten.